Happy New Year! A time of resolutions and dreams for the year ahead, and yet, I am drawn to honoring some illuminations from this past year...
Holding Space for another
*Presence and Witnessing
nonverbal
I see you
I feel you and connect with you...without judgment or sinking with you
preferring non-touch unless needed at critical point for grounding/safety
*All is Well mind and heart
embodying, attuning and connecting to...the thought, the feeling, the knowing, the peace that truly All is Well in the grander picture
bringing in the higher frequency of Love allowing some spaciousness and expansion in and around the density of sadness, grief, anger, pain and suffering, and allowing the possibility of the higher frequencies of hope, comfort, peace, lightness
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Being here on Earth is not easy and requires courage and the practice/discipline of
Self Care to remain open and connected and to personally grow and evolve
Instead of resisting and judging my emotional and energetic sensitivity and corresponding mood swings into lows and valleys, ACCEPT and LOVE this part of me that dips into sadness and funk because it IS ME...and there is always rich learning on the other side of it.
ALLOW the flow of emotion and energy IN THE MOMENT when it arises or is triggered, instead of suppressing until a more “convenient” time and place. Pull the car over, go into a bathroom stall, whatever is available in the moment, to bawl or scream or move. This flow, shedding, venting, takes less than two minutes to release the charge. And then give myself another 30 seconds to a minute to allow the adrenaline release to dissipate, using my hands to put gentle pressure on my tummy and/or heart for a sense of safety and grounding and connection.
The point is not to deny, suppress, or bury my emotions but rather TRANSFORM them with my tears, screams, throwing or hitting something safe, running, moving...whatever physically releases them from my body. Use these tools to move beyond survival into thriving.
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Remember to Ask for Help from God/Spirit/Love and from “safe” friends and loved ones
H hello
E eternal
L loving
P presence
(Thank you Michael Bernard Beckwith for this profound acronym!)
Help from God/Spirit/Love typically comes to me through dreams, ahaa’s, meditation and through having the courage to share my struggles with Trey or like-minded friends who witness and hold safe, sacred space for me.
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Love simply Is
Trust, know, remember that the essence of Love is real (eternal and unchanging and indestructible). When Trey does or says something that triggers my woundedness and feelings of
unworthiness
abandonment
losing his love...
remember what is real and that either he has acted out of his stuff and fear, or I have reacted out of my stuff and fear. Our mutual love remains solid and unchanging.
In reality, my true self is incapable of being harmed, unloved, lessened. My true self exists outside of duality and Is Love (Safe/Worthy).
Happy PAST Year!
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